In his ‘Dialogues’ Seneca identifies three obstacles between a man and wisdom. At first, very much in line with Epictetus, the understanding that we have to accept fate – or if you will ‘the will of the Gods’ – for what it is: a given. In essence we cannot ‘make’ life. I think this is very clearly underlined by a question I once heart ask: “Hey buddy, where did you choose to be born……?”.
Secondly, it is our challenge to be autonomous, in the sense of being independent of the judgement of, or even the unjust done to us by, others. Very much in line with accepting faith for what it is, also the behavior of others is something we cannot control.
Which brings Seneca to the third challenge for a wise man, to rule out anger or even emotion in your judgement and decisions. Very often it will be emotion that drives the judgement of others towards you. Be autonomous to that. But obviously also and more difficult in my experience, be autonomous to emotion in your own judgement and decision making.
Bringing the three (accepting fate, autonomy towards others and rule out emotion in our own decision making) into practise will make you a better person and our world a better place to life in. Not easy, I admit, nevertheless …..
Both Epictetus’ lectures and Seneca’s dialogues are very good reads and a great help. However you need to set back your emotion when it comes to their views on women, which are very different to what we know is just today.